Top Ten Reasons Women Cheat.

Diane Lane did it in Unfaithful. Annette Bening did it in
American Beauty . Sarah Jessica Parker did it on Sex and the
City. And they’re not the only ones. Although women haven’t
surpassed men on the cheating scale, more married women
than ever before are jumping in the sack with someone other
than their husbands. According to an American Sexual
Behavior study, 14% of married women have cheated at least
once, compared to 22% of married men. Not that we’re
condoning two-timing from either party, but here are the top
10 reasons women cheat .
Number 10
Not enough sex
Remember the good old days when you could stay up forever
fooling around? Then responsibility entered the mix — and
kids — and before you knew it, sleep was more important than
sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making
her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that
spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative
e-mails at lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the
way of kissing, cuddling and sex.
Number 9
Being the bad girl
Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women
have an inner sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed — and
when the beast escapes from the cage, look out. This frisky
behavior usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort
of life change — major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-
life crisis, etc. Keep the lines of communication open and
she’ll be more likely to talk to you about what’s going on
instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the night.
Number 8
Self-esteem
Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster
that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more
loved. If your wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it
doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to cheat — and it’s
certainly not your fault if she does — but there are ways to
make her feel secure in the relationship that could help her
from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and
don’t hold back on compliments — a little flattery goes a long
way with women.
Number 7
Revenge/payback for past
wrongs
No, you didn’t cheat, but whether you blew your retirement
fund in Vegas or got caught in a big lie, you did break her trust
(and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded and betrayed —
and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To regain
her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you
have to show her. Actions speak louder than words.
Number 6
Lack of intimacy
You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-
and-a-half bathrooms — at least on the outside. But inside,
the relationship is lacking the one thing women want most:
intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected
in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and
communicating. Women crave it, and she could seek it
elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home. To improve
intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a foot
massage, make a romantic dinner for two — anything that will
give her a sense of unity and closeness.
Number 5
Feeling neglected/ignored/
underappreciated
Women wear many hats in a relationship — housekeeper,
errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter, etc. When she
feels more like a maid than a girlfriend/wife, that’s when she
could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or
on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention
elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her
for all her selfless deeds — and do your share around the
house.
Number 4
Your emotional withdrawal
Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical
support, but they also need emotional support. Once you
retreat from the relationship, she sees it as a sign that things
are through — a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really
cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid this, be present in the
relationship. Yes, that means sharing your icky feelings, but
it’s better than the alternative, right?
Number 3
Bedroom boredom
Sex can become monotonous if you let it — the same
position; the same setting; the same person. An affair adds
adventure and gets her adrenalin flowing. To avoid routine,
avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend, make out
at the movies, kiss her for no reason at all... The unexpected
adds excitement.
Number 2
Exit strategy
Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way
she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship, which
is much harder to fix. An affair is the easy way out — or at
least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason
communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you
about anything and that you love her enough to work through
any bumps in the relationship road.
Number 1
Revenge for your cheating
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated,
she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own
medicine. Cheating is her vengeance, her chance to even the
playing field. No, you can’t undo your indiscretion, but you
can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will never happen
again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through
this tough time.
her cheating heart
When you add up all the reasons women cheat, it’s usually
her heart (or her ego) that needs healing, not her libido. Keep
the lines of communication open, be supportive and
encouraging and work at keeping that spark ignited. In other
words: Don’t give her a reason to stray.