Cheating as it stands, is the master hinge of the doors of many relationships. Guys and girls alike, have been caught up in this trap, either ones or severally. I chose to do this write up, following endless questions from my lovely female folks like; why is he cheating on me? How do I tell if he is cheating on me? While some tend to validate their inactions by being overtly suspicious, others have concluded that their male spouses are guilty even within the limits of unavailable evidences.
How do I know when he's cheating?
Now, far from popular beliefs and opinions that a guy wouldn't pick up most of his calls from his "01" when he's with the other, a guy can chose to pick up the phone even while he's with the other. Now there are so many smooth ways of meandering around such intricate moments. Now ladies, this is the time to be observant the most as we males tend to resort to cheap psychology during such times. Knowing your spouse is one of the keys necessary for unlocking his mysterious doors. Now ladies, answer these few questions.
1. Why is he talking to you like he's talking to just a friend or a sister?
2. Why doesn't he want to say "I love you too" buh rather ends the call with "me too"?
3. Why is he such in a haste to end his call unnecessarily?
These answers can only be helpful when you know your spouse intimately.
The other case
Why is he calling you at this hour? Strange? Some guys tend to call their spouse when they want to go "swimming" or "fishing" so as to avoid due interruptions. Some ladies say to them selves, "Francis? calling me at this time? hmmmm". Now ladies, what do you do? Call his line 30-40 minutes after the damn call. Though its not a sure way. It might lead some where.
Is he really single?
Sometimes, ladies come across handsome single guys, who are just too handsome or rich to be single as they claim, but are caught up in their charm. Now, lets examine a few scenarios.
Does he live alone in his apartment?
My dear ladies, don't be too desperate as desperation leads to disappointments. Don't be easily carried by the well furnished apartment, the 50" razor frame tv staring monstrously from its comfortable position on the wall, or the warm and welcoming sofas and couches. Now you're in, it's time to take a careful observation.
How does his bedroom look like? Are there nails hanging on the wall without holding frames? Now there is every possibility that he's removed a picture frame from that nail hanging fallow on the wall so as to conceal some hidden facts and identities. Are there earrings on the mattress? Are there loose-guarded feminine artefacts within? Now lets go to his kitchen.
How does his kitchen look like?
A bachelor's kitchen is always a bachelor's kitchen. Is his kitchen well furnished and equipped up to having complete sets of cutleries? Graters? I am a guy and may not exactly be able to envisage a lady's kitchen successfully. But a lady should instinctively be aware of a ladies presence in a kitchen I suppose.
How does he travel?
I once had a case of a lady friend, whose spouse always travelled every weekend, in the guise of going to visit his mum and dad. Little did she know he had a family already, who were the reason for his endless weekend voyages. Now my dear ladies, be observant. Tell him sometimes you want to accompany him on one of his many weekend trips, what are his reactions? Be willing to go the extra mile in actually knowing your guy.
Lipstick stains?
Lipstick stains have been a very common way of unravelling the romantic escapades of a guy by his spouse. While these stains do not actually connote cheating always, sometimes, it could just lead to your discovery.
Where from here?
There are so many other points which can't be dealt with here on this post. My dear ladies, you don't have to over-suspiciously push your relationship off the cliff. Patience as they say, is still a virtue. Be patient around facts and with findings. Remember!!! Things might not always be what they seem. Live, love, learn, laugh. Life is beautiful.
Guys be patient. Our episode is own it's way. 😄
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